A Day Lily Blooms in November

Our little city garden supprised us this week: the day lily bloomed in November!

We've been having this crazy weather this fall. Sometimes cool, but then it warms up. The killing frost that should accompany El Día de los Muertos (Nov. 2) never came.

The last 2 weekends it was in the 60s (15-18 deg. C) and it got one of the day lily plants a bit confused. There was a yellow flower coming out in November!

It should only be blooming during the summer. But this summer was very wet and it only bloomed when we were away in Peru. But this one little bloom in November makes up for it.

The killing frost finally came this week, but the yellow flower remains.

Here's the little flower, hiding in our front planter:

The Joy of Spam

Ah, the joy of spam!

If your spam filter isn't working, it just keeps coming and coming and coming and coming.

To quote Monty Python: "Spam spam spam spam spam spam spam spam, wonderful spam...."

Do I need a cheap car? An early payday? Satellite TV? Money for school? Maybe even a job? Or maybe I need to control my appetite. Spam reveals the way! Here's some of my favorite topics.

Breast Implants

Sounds great!? Not only can I get these larger, perkier breasts, but I can afford better breasts!Wow! Well why not, if I can afford it!

So why does one need these better and perkier breasts? That's when you have to read the message:

"Are you tired of men paying more attention to women with larger, perkier breasts?"

Hmm, can't say I am! And what exactly makes a breast perkier? Is it just size or a more conical shape?

Even if guys are watching, is it such a good thing? A close friend who is naturally "very well endowed" feels very self-conscious in public when guys stare. In fact, she often says she'd like to get them reduced. (I kid that she should be a doner for the less endowed who desire a perkier endowment!)

What if you think you're reasonably proportioned as is? (They look ok in the pic, at least to me.) Who needs to be top heavy!

"Do you want to feel better about yourself and have all those eyes on you at the next party?"

Don't know I really want that... I'm shy, so I don't mind a few eyes, maybe, but not necessarily all those eyes (particularly those guys who gauk at your breasts and don't look you in the eye when talking to you) .

Funny thing -- these spam ads came to a guy's e-mail. Wonder how many guys want perkier breasts to they can get more guys looking at them!!!

Dating

So Jenn wants to chat with me! Two new signles want to talk with me! But who's this "Hey Babe..." character who also wants to chat with me? Am I the "Babe" or is she/he? Never realized so many people want to chat with me.

And now I have a neighbor who is looking for me! (Hope he or she is not peeping into my bedroom window trying to find me!) And why is this neighbor assuming I'm still single?

Now I must find out who are these sexxxy singles!! Do all those x's make them extra sexxxy?

So, why do I want to see Britney's pics? What if looking at a young women's pics isn't my thing?

Why does spam always assume everyone is single? Or is this an opportunity for those in a relationship to "chat" with someone else -- maybe one of those extra sexxxy singles! This is a consumer society, so why just have one relationship when you can have as many as you can stand!

Now, you shouldn't think I spend my days reading spam. But every once in a while, it's entertaining to see what they're trying to sell and how they pitch it. Ah, spam -- it you can't avoid it, at least you can make fun of it!

Visitor in my garden

I hate spiders -- them and their yucky webs! They give me the creeps. I like to avoid them and just let them be, hopefully somewhere far from my comings and goings.

Now it's been unusually warm again, in the 60s (15 to 18 deg. C), and I was thinking of taking in my 4-ft. high geranium before the killing frost (if it ever comes). As I was about to reach for the geranium pot, I felt something funny. There was this web connected to my plant and the biggest spider I ever saw in the garden sitting in the middle of her web. Well, I just left her alone.

Later I showed it to Rosie who said “Hmm, not going to catch much at this time of year.” Unless some insects decided to check out the unusually warm weather in November, she’ll go hungry.

Her she is, squatting in my garden!

Today, the web remains, but no garden spider.

My Garden is Dying

Today is known as the Day of the Dead (El día de los muertos in Latin America). Since I started gardening, I have always associated Halloween and the Day of the Dead with the first killing frost here in the northeast.

Being in the city, it comes a few weeks later. But it's now or never to rescue whatever I want to keep indoors over the winter. Soon my inpatients will be withered, the tomato plants brown, and leaves will cover it all until next spring.

Here are some photos of my garden last’s days before the frost and the rescuing of the geraniums and parsley.

For pictures of this garden in bloom, see my post titled "My little garden."

What is Ugly?

How do we define beauty or ugliness? Is it a universal standard or does it vary from culture to culture? Is it a point of view? Is it in the eye of the beholder? Or is it related to specific body features? Does "ugly" involve a disfigurement? How is beauty/ugliness related to one's weight or body shape?

Reading the lead article of the New York Times Style section on Thursday (10/30/08) "Move Over, My Pretty, Ugly Is Here," got me thinking.

You see, not only am I tall, and apparently a nerd, but for looks, let's say it's quite not a winning hand. Not that I'd be considered hideous, just a bit homely.

But luckily I can make up in brains what I may lack in looks. And now that I’m living in the neighborhood of middle age, I'm finally over the low self-esteem born in adolescence, when you know exactly where you stand in the pecking order of attractiveness.

Still, I must say I chose MyBlogLog over, say Facebook, because I wanted to be known for my words and thoughts, and not for what I may look like. That's also why I chose a cute avatar to represent my inner self-confidence and put a better face foward.

As I think back to adolescence it was like a domino effect of social segregation. From an early age, the more attractive tend to become the more popular, gaining more friends and social skills. The less attractive, especially if they're shy (like me), tend to fade to the background in social settings, less likely to reach out and make friends. Isolation can lead to depression and doubts about self-worth. Lack of confidence keeps you from putting your best face forward.

This effects both girls and boys. And it can take years to overcome it.

For me, having success in my profession helped a lot. In engineering, appearance and personality are generally less important; what matters to the boss is if you what you're doing and get the job done efficiently. In fact, as I think of all the competent engineers I know, there are both men and women who span the range of body shapes and appearances -- and they generally get along with each other.

The TV show "Ugly Betty" has brought the issue of appearance to prime time. The title character is also a bit homely, yet it doesn't hold her back. She too finds success at work which raises her self-esteem. And there is a related campaign to improve the self image and self confidence particularly of adolescent girls by de-emphasizing appearance.

Amazingly, even people we might find attractive have been through tough times when they were teased about their looks. Sometimes it was cultural. Someone who might have been considered unattractive in her native country, may be consider quite attractive in another culture.

On the other hand, love can overcome other aspects of appearance. The beloved is always seen as attractive. To a mother, her child is alway precious, even is she/he is a bit homely. And as couples grow old together, their appearance change with the addition of wrinkles and weight, or the loss of hair, but, through the eyes of love, they may still see each other as attractive and desirable.

It really seems that appearance is really a matter of viewpoint. Beauty and ugliness are really in the eyes of the beholder.

Now can you find a somewhat homely, aging blogger in the lineup below?

Appreciating Life Better Through Blogging

Blogging on whatever strikes me has intensified my observations and appreciations of the life and events that passes on around me. Life presents opportunities to find beauty and interest in the near-at-hand. (Take this view of a little pond in a new park here in Cambridge.)

Much of the time life becomes a repeated pattern of events: go to work, come home, eat, watch a little TV, pay some bills, keep in touch with friends, etc. Weeks pass as a series of low intensity events while life lives me and not the other way around. We become numb to life -- the intensity can be lost.

When I was younger, there were more spontaneous things I did with friends or places visited, and life had a greater intensity. But now that I'm living in the neighborhood of middle age, this repeated pattern of weekly events lived while trying to keep one's head above water (especially when work is busy) results in a life can become a bit of a rut at times.

But, I've found that blogging is a blessing that gives me an outlet where I can reflect on my feelings of moments and events as they enter my life. Momentary scenes are often filled with an intensity of feelings, thoughts, and connections.

Consider this photo I took: "August Sunset at Longfellow Bridge." This is taken from the train platform of Charles Street station looking west from Boston in to Cambridge. The Red Line subway and roadway cross the Charles River. First thing that moved me was the striking lighting effect created by eclipsing the setting sun with a lightpole, bathing the view in a warm yellow light. And the back-lit cloud over the steam power plant across the river. And the peaceful and empty view with only one young woman standing on the platform, no traffic on the bridge --- all in stark contrast to an otherwise bustling Saturday in Boston. It was Aug. 18th, and I was on my way to see the movie Vicky Christina Barcelona in its first week of release.

(As a transportation engineer, this one photo covers many interests including a unique view of the bridge, the train tracks, the Charles River, and the power plant across the river, one of the few surviving industrial landmarks of a once major manufacturing district built filled tidelands. The platform extension where the photo was taken was built in 1982, as part of a project I worked on).

Here's another favorite "Sunny Lane in Autumn" taken in the midst of Cambridge. On a rare warm October Sunday, with the delicious rays of the sun on my skin (as I yearned for the summer that is now past), I could sabor the respite from cooler days as I strolled comfortably in short sleeves and flip flops all the while taking in the colors of the autumnal arboreal transformation. I had always thought one really needed to get out of the city to see fall in New England. Drive up to New Hampshire and Vermont, take winding country lanes, find an apple stand, and hope it's not raining and cold. But, instead, the beauty of fall comes right to my fair city, if I just go out and appreciate it.

Fall Colors with Uplighting

I always love a garden with up-lighting at night. There's something almost other-worldly and ethereal, yet peaceful about it. And it’s just kinda cool. It’s that white light washing, but not completely obliterating the colors.

So, I came upon this plaza with uplighting on some trees. In any other season, it would be interesting, but at the peak of the fall foliage change, it really caught my eye.

So, I captured them the best I could. These photos almost gets the feel of seeing it with your own eyes.

Then I had some fun altering the lighting and color (it would be cool in a slow disolve video clip).

Well, Guess I Am a Nerd, After All!

In my profile I describe myself as shy and a nerd. You see, in social settings I tend to be shy and, being an engineer, I guess I’m a nerd because I’m pretty good at math and science. But I never never knew for sure if I really would be classified a nerd.

Until today.

In a blog I follow, a recent entry titled “My world has been shattered.” by bcschjenk (http://bcschjenk.blogspot.com/2008/10/my-world-has-been-shattered.html), included a definition of “nerd” and, gee, it kinda fits.

The author quotes http://www.urbandictionary.com/ for the comparison of “geek,” “nerd,” and “dork” as follows:

.......................“Technical ................Social

...Title ............... Skills ................ Skills
Normie .............. No ..................... Yes

Geek ................. Yes ..................... Yes

Nerd ................ Yes ...................... No

Dork ................. No ..................... No”

It goes on to define “nerd” as:

“Nerd: A socially awkward person who has learned technical skills due to the spare time they enjoy from being generally neglected. Their technical knowledge then leads normies to neglect them even further, leading to more development of their technical skills, more neglection, etc. This vicious cycle drives them even more into social oblivion.”

Well, maybe the definition is a little harsh. It’s not like I don’t spend time with others, and some of them may actually be “normies.” And these technical skills I learned in school.

But, to be honest, I am shy and somewhat socially awkward, especially meeting new people. Sometimes I just don’t have much to say. And I don’t mind being silent, even with friends.

(But, you might ask, how can someone so shy write so much in a blog? But, you see, when I have time think, ideas come to me……then I have a lot to say.)

So, I guess I’m sorta a nerd (but not too nerdy, I hope!).

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Reference: La Tristesse Durera Toujours (http://bcschjenk.blogspot.com/)

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